Being a good girl, pleasing people and avoiding conflicts even if it means you are going against yourself. Do you recognise it?
For the longest time women have been made to feel guilty or shameful in everyday situations. We are made to overthink and underplay almost every aspect of the way we live. From being too assertive to being too nice, society has a way of making us feel like everything we do is wrong. We’re now slowly vowing to do away with those undeserved feelings of guilt and take back our right to be exactly who we want.
Here are just a few of the things women should absolutely stop feeling ashamed about.
Women often feel as if they can’t be assertive in the workplace or even at home, at the risk of being called rude or aggressive. Everyone deserves to have their voice heard and sometimes that means saying what you think and not apologizing for it.
Taking Care of Your Mental Health
Over the past several years, the stigma around mental health and going to therapy has slowly started to change, but it’s not quite where it should be. Taking care of your own mental and wellbeing is and should be the top priority. The only way to change this stigma is to unapologetically take care of YOU.
When it comes to marriage, kids, and owning a house, society seems to have a weirdly strict timeline. We’re here to remind you that it doesn’t matter what age you do any of these things because it is your life and you deserve to live it on the schedule that works for you.
If for the millionth time someone is trying to use your guilt of saying no to make you do something that isn’t a positive use of your time, remember this: You don’t owe anyone anything. It isn’t selfish to say no, in fact, it can often be a form of self-care and we should be doing more of it.
Asking for Help
Asking for help doesn’t mean you failed nor does it mean you’re not good enough. Sometimes asking for help is what makes us human. We can’t be expected to cook, clean, take care of children, and nurture relationships while also being career-driven, independent women. We deserve to ask for assistance without feeling judged or guilt-ridden.
For so long, we have been trying to debunk the stereotype that women are overly sensitive, but with this we’ve also been made to feel ashamed of our emotions. The ups and down of our emotions are a part of everyday life, and expressing our thoughts and feelings are the key to living a happy life. So to anyone who thinks women are too emotional – we say yes, we are, but just the right amount to get sh*t done 😊 and remain in-tune with our wants and needs.
Watching “Trashy” TV
Watching “trashy” TV is an incredible way to forget about your own problems and just enjoy some made-up drama. Whether a romantic comedy or reality show is your go-to, there is nothing shameful about embracing the entertainment that brings you joy without worrying about how a “silly” show is perceived.
Asking for More
Sometimes, we take on a lot in our relationships and career. When this happens, we need to be guilt-free about asking for more. Demand the time, dedication, or money that you need to get things done.
As Donna Meagle would say “Treat yo’ self!” There is nothing wrong with treating yourself, regardless of the reason. We work hard in our everyday lives taking care of family, friends, and others and many times we forget to take care of ourselves. Take yourself out for a fancy dinner, revel in a relaxing spa day, or go out and buy yourself that thing you thought you didn’t deserve because sometimes a little self-indulgence is exactly what you need.
Although everyone knows that all humans make mistakes, it can feel as though women are expected to be above this common cliché. Women are allowed to make mistakes without shame, and often those same failures and mistakes can lead to learning opportunities and growth. They don’t need to be a negative, guilt-inducing experiences – we’re human, too! 😉