Why Relationships Are Critical on Your Journey to Be a Mum

I know a desire to be a mum is very strong especially when we get to a certain age. I also know about the challenges that we face in terms of our relationship with our partner.

I just recently received the message from one lady saying that she is before her first IVF, but not sure about her partner being the one for her any more.

My heart sunk… I know this is a scary place to be when your life is already ‘set’…but with the same breath I want to say – wouldn’t you like to be sure first?

Most of the work I’ve done mainly with women for the past 19 years was all in area of relationships. Many of them had unexpected results they didn’t hope for and Im not just talking about them falling in love with their current partners almost as if it was someone who they just met newly. I am talking about those women who chose to leave their partners and found courage to re-create their own life newly in order to be free, in order to give themselves a chance to find the one who now treats them as a Queens that they are – no kidding!

I have been married once before and trust me, I went through a trail of kissing many not so wonderful frogs before I met my Bledi who some of you know. It was a perfect journey that shaped me and made me so much stronger and yes, I know how it is to leave ‘safety’ to jump into unknown. In fact to leave my marriage, I left and was on the street for few days, but I was free and it felt beautifully peaceful!

However, I also know how important it is to plan and then have a baby with someone who you 100% know he will be not there, but HERE with you and for you through thick and thin and you are safe with him no matter what happens. You know he is the one who is going to be your rock when you receive the tough news or if there is God forbid house fire like it happened to us 5 years ago. And yes, Bledi saved my life! 🙂

Having a babies is the most wonderful thing AND it truly puts another level of strain onto your relationship – even the strong relationships can often be shaken by combination of experiencing endless routine, suffering of sleeping deprivation and our different approaches how we see our child being brought up (just to mention few).

Yes you may say – Im not even there yet, Luc… I know, you may be still just on your journey to be a mum and I know you want it so much and you want it now and if your marriage is filled with honesty, abundance of love and laughter, you are probably not even reading this!

But if you don’t feel like a Goddess with your man, experiencing tensions in your communication and feel like you need to ‘play the game’ to get what you want around him, you may want to speak to me to see what else is possible for you in your life.

The truth is, the babies come when babies come AND they seem to come when we are ready – not when everything is perfect – but when we are ready internally.

One of the reasons why I chose to launch my first fertility group program and focus on relationship with your partner is, that I wanted you to experience profound connection not only with your partner, but also with yourself even before you become a mum!

Relationship with yourself and your partner is from my experience one of the most important pillars from which then you can build truly incredible future for yourselves including expansion of your family.