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13 Indicators It’s Time to Break Up and Leave a Relationship

by Lucia Hoxhain English, Life Style Coaching

We all agree relationships are very complex. It is a wild ride that can take us from the heights of euphoria to the depths of despair.

But eventually, every ride must come to an end. The question is, how do you know when it’s time to punch your exit ticket and step off the rollercoaster?

In this post, we’ll explore the telltale signs that it’s time to break up and move on from a relationship.

From the obvious red flags to the more nuanced hints, we’ll help you decode the signals that it’s time to say goodbye.

So, fasten your emotional seatbelt as we help you navigate your path to freedom.

Let’s dive in.

Why is Breaking Up and Leaving a Relationship So Difficult?

Breaking up with someone can be one of the most challenging decisions you’ll ever make, even when you know it’s the right choice. Here are a few reasons why it’s so hard to break up and let go:

  • Emotional attachment: The bond you’ve formed with your partner makes it painful to imagine life without them
  • Fear of change: Breaking up can be terrifying as it brings about significant change and uncertainty
  • Sunk cost fallacy: The more time and effort you’ve invested in the relationship, the harder it is to simply walk away
  • Social pressure: Concerns about the reactions of friends and family can make ending the relationship uncomfortable

13 Ways To Know It’s Time To Break Up


1. You Feel “Hidden”

Is your partner weird and nervous about you hanging out with his friends and family?

This is a giant, barking, red-light-district flag. Keeping things low-key at the beginning of a relationship is fine.

But if you’re living together and they still don’t want you around outside of the house, get out.

Hiding romantic partners is never a feasible long-term strategy. It only breeds resentment.

2. You’re Living in a State of Cognitive Dissonance
Cognitive dissonance is the feeling of discomfort that arises when our values and views are debunked and truth is revealed. Humans love the comfort zone and we often use irrational excuses, justifications, and explanations to avoid the pain of coming out of it.

Is your relationship rooted in rationalisations? If so, it may be time to see yourself out.

3. You Can No Longer Overlook Their Faults
Ask anyone happily married for over ten years how they do it, and there’s a 95% chance they’ll say something like: We learned how to ignore the small stuff.

It may sound dismissive, but it’s true: Couples who’ve been together for a long time have a switch they turn on and off when their partners are doing or saying something annoying.

But when the switch stops working, and you’d rather eat wet sand than endure your partner’s sniffs, loud chews, and boring conversations about their interminably boring hobby, it’s safe to say that the love has, indeed, gone.

4. Infidelity Recidivism

For some folks, cheating is a dealbreaker, and if it happens, the relationship is over. No questions asked. Other folks can excuse one or two lapses in judgment.

However, if your partner is serially cheating on you, trust that it’s a sign of doom (if you don’t have an open relationship).Stepping out, again and again, is a problem. And no, they don’t love you how you deserve to be loved if they know you hate cheating and don’t stop

5. You’re a Different Person Around Your Partner

Sure, we all learn from friends and partners and may change a bit because of their influence. But if you feel like you’re playing a role and your authentic self is being buried under a cloak of expectations, consider pulling the escape hatch.

Maintaining a facade is unsustainable, and you’ll only grow to resent the relationship the longer you try.

6. You’re Stuck in a Loop
Is the relationship stuck in a loop and endlessly boring with nothing new ever happening? Do you both vow to change its trajectory only to keep landing at square one? If this sounds familiar, ask yourself if this is the furthest this partnership can go. Are you fine with that?

If not, it’s probably time to cut ties.

7. Nobody Is Making an Effort
Both of you want more, but neither is trying to make it so. Sound familiar?

If yes, it may be time to say goodbye. Things change. People change. Relationships change. But if you’re not making an effort to grow in the right direction together, then what’s the point?

8. You No Longer Feel the Same
Ask a Buddhist, and they’ll tell you that impermanence is life’s essence. Nothing stays the same forever, and sometimes that something is a relationship.

Don’t force anything that no longer exists. If one or both of you has changed, see it as a sign to move on. Cherish the good times spent together, but move forward separately.

9. Partner Expects You To Change
Unconditional love preservers through faults. If a partner expects flawlessness, run from the relationship. Perfection is impossible.

We’re not talking about things that will improve your well-being, like quitting smoking or overdrinking. Partners have every right to draw boundaries around such things. But if someone expects you to dress differently, lose weight, or become softer, hand them walking papers.

Likewise, demanding superficial changes from your partner is just as much of a sign that it’s time to break up and leave the relationship.

10. You Hamstring Each Other

Sometimes, a relationship works in every way except logistically. You love each other but want different things; your goals don’t align.

If your dreams give you purpose but don’t fit into your current relationship, then maybe it’s just not the right pairing. Besides, no rule says you can’t be in each other’s lives in a platonic capacity.

11. You’re Scared of Being Single

Scientists studied the relationship IQs of people who admitted they’re terrified of being single. The organization found that people fearful of being alone wound end up staying in terrible relationships, further damaging their mental health.

Unfortunately, letting fear of singledom hold you back is common – but it’s the opposite of healthy. Besides, studies show that married and cohabiting people aren’t happier than single folks.

In fact, many single folks lead more fulfilling lives than their coupled-up counterparts. In other words, the stats aren’t on your side, and there’s no guarantee you’ll feel worse if you cut ties. Most people wind up finding it freeing.

12. You Live in the Relationship’s Past

Nostalgy is heart-warming. Living in the past is about as healthy as deep-fried bacon…dipped in lard.

Think of your relationship as a middle-aged guy who was once his high school’s football star. These days, is he the guy that’s moved on, has a job, and grown with the times?

Or the one that still goes to every high school football game and spends the rest of his time at the local bar, talking about his glory days?

Moving on may be your best bet if your relationship is stuck in the past.

13. Your Future Goals and Visions Are Incompatible

Your long-term goals and dreams for the future are no longer in alignment. While differences in personal interests can be navigated, differing life goals and values can be too great.

If you have opposing views on basic issues, such as having children/ways you bring them up, career paths, or where to live, it’s starts to look pretty bleak on having a happy future together.

Once you realise that you’re aimed in different directions it may be time to consider parting ways.

Final Thoughts

Knowing when to end a relationship can be a difficult and emotional decision.

Wink - Lucia Hoxha | Yoga | Lifestyle Coach | Online Yoga for Women

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