7 Steps to Having a Peaceful Life After Your Divorce
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7 Steps to Having a Peaceful Life After Your Divorce
I went through it, done it, got a T-shirt and gosh, it wasn’t easy, so if you are reading this article and going through this right now, I salute and bow to you as I know it takes something…
However, I have got good news! There is a great bright light at the end of the tunnel – especially if we pull it together and go through the progress with integrity and aligned with our core values.
Give yourself the gift of peace and joy
During and after a divorce, it is difficult to find peace and joy in your life. Memories of what you used to have, and dreams of what you wanted your life to be, have a way of hitting you hard. And it’s difficult looking forward into the future with any kind of excitement or hope.
So, how do you find peace when everything in your life has been turned upside down? Peace is a state of being that you can have at any time. You just need to learn how to tap into it. You need to incorporate it into your life as a daily practice.
Focus on these 7 steps to find your inner peace after divorce:
1. Focus on being rather than doing
In our culture, there is a huge emphasis on achievement – that what we do dictates our value. In fact, this focus on “doing” is actually a recipe for failure. Time and time again, people postpone their happiness until they achieve some goal – and then when they do, they might feel a fleeting rush of happiness or nothing at all.
There is no lasting peace of any kind. One goal is replaced by another so that we are never truly off the hamster wheel and always feel dissatisfied with where we are in life.
Replacing the focus on doing with a focus on “being” frees us to see the value that is inherent in who we are and who we choose to be in our lives. Peace is a choice. And when you say “yes” to peace, you are saying “no” to anything that disrupts that peace. And by choosing peace, everything you do from that perspective now seems easier.
2. Be in the present
Our past has already happened and our future is yet to come. We only have this moment to be in. Keeping a focus on “being” keeps us present in this moment, but it’s a discipline that needs to be practiced. We need to let go of our old stories from the past – they only define you if you let them.
Silence your inner critics who want to rob you of your peace and tie you up in knots of worry around all of the “what ifs” that might or might not happen. It seems a terrible waste of time and energy focusing on things that might never come to pass.
Choose practices like meditation, yoga, or rock climbing – anything that keeps you focused on the present. Choose appreciation and gratitude for all the blessings you have right now. There are miracles all around you. If you aren’t in the present, you are rushing forward so fast you can’t even see these miracles, never mind receive them.
3. Live by your core values
Everyone knows that they have values, but few can identify their core values when asked. Understanding the values that are most important to you and living by them, so that you are honoring them in every decision you make, is key to being at peace with yourself and the world around you.
Also, understand that your values are unique to you, so when you feel miserable, out of sync, or misunderstood in your environment, it is likely a result of your values being squashed by different ones around you.
Finding the people and environments that share your values, rather than stomping all over them, will support who you are and help you shine. Identifying your core values, living by them, and aligning them with those around you will bring you peace with who you are and what you do.
Throughout time, people have found comfort and safety as part of a group connected through shared purpose, activity, and lifestyle. There is peace is being a part of something that is larger than us individually. There is peace in being accepted as an individual into this higher purpose.
And a connection with others feeds our soul. It often helps define us, hopefully for the better. And through this community, this connection, we are all necessary to this world.
So much of our modern culture is about what we “get” when we achieve certain “goals”. The rewards of “doing well” include all the material things money can buy. Doing well, though, isn’t the same thing as living well.
The first is focused on having enough so that you don’t worry (about position, security, stability) and the second is about being at peace in all parts of yourself and your environment so that you never worry at all.
A key element to achieving this peace is in contribution – giving, rather than getting, and giving without any expectation of receiving anything in return. This contribution keeps you on the path of living your values. It provides a higher purpose for you to share in and it is a gift you give to others that reward your soul.
We’ve all experienced the hurt and anger of a personal slight, deception, or betrayal. And what happens? Trust is broken. Pride is hurt. You’re angry at the other person and, sometimes, even yourself. What do we do with all those emotions?
In some cases, old grudges can fester for years or whole lifetimes. Most people tend to think of forgiveness as something you grant to the other person. I disagree. To me, we don’t forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive because we deserve it.
Forgiveness is not for other people. It is purely for ourselves. The act of forgiveness is about letting go of the anger and releasing the hurt so that you can be free and at peace in your life.
Forgiveness turns anger about the past into hope for the future. Otherwise, you are stuck in a story about the past that limits and imprisons you. And self-forgiveness is just as, if not more, important than forgiving others. So, let it go. Otherwise, you will never be free, never truly at peace with yourself.
7. Declare your positive intentions
It has been proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that our world is one large mass of energy. It flickers in and out of being in milliseconds over and over again. This is called the science of Quantum Physics.
Nobel Prize-winning physicists have proven that it is our thoughts, our consciousness, that pull this energy field together to create the world we see and experience within the limited spectrum of our senses.
Our perception of the world is pure interpretation. Whatever we believe in, and observe, is created by the very fact that we believe it and are observing it.
Our thoughts literally create the universe we live in. So, we manifest what we think about. Your life becomes what you think it will be. The Universe is just reflecting your thoughts back at you until you decide to think and feel and be differently.
There is a world of possibility out there, especially once you know and accept that you can manifest anything you want, purely by focusing on it. So create a list of your positive intentions – focus your thoughts and your being on everything you want for yourself and the world.
Know that you are helping to change yourself and the Universe for the better. You will truly be at peace, confident that everything you want is easily yours.
Eckhart Tolle said: “You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.” And in that self-awareness, there is peace and miracles and joy.
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