How to Set Up Inspiring Goals for Next Year and Make Sure We Follow Through

Yes, it’s that time of year again. The time of year when we feel as if we have to turn over a new leaf. The time when we misguidedly imagine that the arrival of a new year will magically provide the catalyst, motivation and persistence we need to reinvent ourselves.

Traditionally, New Year’s Day is styled as the ideal time to kick start a new phase in your life and the time when you must make your all important new year’s resolution.  Unfortunately, the beginning of the year is also one of the worst times to make a major change in your habits because it’s often a relatively stressful time, right in the middle of the party and vacation season.

Try not to set yourself up for failure in 2019 by vowing to make huge changes that will be hard to keep, which may disempower you even more – something you may experienced already in the past years.  We suggest you to follow these seven steps for successfully making a new year’s resolution you can stick to for good.

1. Just pick one thing

If you want to change your life or your lifestyle don’t try to change the whole thing at once.  It won’t work. Instead pick one area of your life to change to begin with.

Make it something concrete so you know exactly what change you’re planning to make.  If you’re successful with the first change you can go ahead and make another change after a month or so.  By making small changes one after the other, you still have the chance to be a whole new you at the end of 2019 and it’s a much more realistic way of doing so.

Don’t pick a New Year’s resolution that’s bound to fail either, like running a marathon if you’re 40lbs overweight and get out of breath walking upstairs.  If that’s the case resolve to walk every day.  When you’ve got that habit down pat you can graduate to running in short bursts, constant running by March or April and a marathon at the end of the year.  Create the stepping stones towards your big goal.

What’s the one habit you most want to change?

2. Plan Ahead

To ensure success you need to research the change you’re making and plan ahead so you have the resources available when you need them.  Here are a few things you should do to prepare and get all the systems in place ready to make your change.

Read up on it – Go to the library and get books on the subject.  Whether it’s quitting smoking, taking up running or yoga or becoming vegan there are books to help you prepare for it.  Or use the Internet or chose to work with the coach who will support you through the process all the way or a nice trusted buddy who will hold you accountable.  Effectively preparing for what is ahead of you means you will start looking forward to making the change, which I believe is very important in terms of your mindset.

Plan for success – Get everything ready so things will run smoothly.  If you’re taking up running make sure you have the trainers, clothes, hat, glasses, ipod loaded with energetic sounds at the ready.  Then there can be no excuses… 😉

3. Anticipate Problems

There will be problems so make a list of what they’ll be.  Think about what may be in the way/what was in the way for you in the past.  If you think about it, you’ll be able to anticipate these challenges at certain times of the day, with specific people or in special situations.  Once you’ve identified the things that will probably be hard work out ways to cope with them when they inevitably crop up.

4. Pick a Start Date

You don’t have to make these changes on New Year’s Day.  That’s the conventional wisdom, but if you truly want to make changes then pick a day when you know you’ll be well-rested, enthusiastic and surrounded by positive people.  E.g.:  I’ll wait until my kids go back to school in February.

Sometimes picking a date doesn’t work.  It’s better to wait until your whole mind and body are fully ready to take on the challenge.  You’ll know when it is when the time comes.

5. Go For It

On the big day go for it 100%.  Make a commitment and write it down on a card.  You just need one short phrase you can carry in your wallet.  Or keep it in your car, by your bed and on your bathroom mirror too for an extra dose of positive reinforcement.
Your commitment card will say something like:

  • I enjoy a clean, smoke-free life
  • I stay calm and balanced even under times of stress
  • I’m committed to run my own successful business
  • I enjoy to meditate daily

6. Accept Failure

If you do fail and sneak a cigarette, miss a walk or shout at the kids one morning don’t hate yourself for it.  Make a note of the triggers that caused this set back and vow to learn a lesson from them.

If you know that alcohol makes you crave cigarettes and oversleep the next day cut back on it.  If you know the morning rush before school makes you shout then get up earlier or prepare things the night before to make it easier on you.  Find the ways how to make things work better next time.  Don’t see it as a ‘failure’ – approach your whole project playfully with commitment as an exciting game!

Perseverance is the key to success.  Try again, keep trying and you will succeed.

7. Plan Rewards

Small rewards are great encouragement to keep you going during the hardest first days.  After that you can probably reward yourself once a week with a magazine, a long-distance call to a supportive friend, a siesta, a trip to the movies or whatever makes you tick.

Later you can change the rewards to monthly and then at the end of the year you can pick an anniversary reward.  Something that you’ll look forward to.  You deserve it and you’ll have earned it!

Whatever your plans and goals are for 2019 I’d do wish you luck with them but remember, it’s your life and you have a capacity to co-create your own future with the Universe.

Decide what you want to do in 2019, plan how to get it and go for it.  I am right here cheering you on and ready to support you in whatever you need.  Remember, you are not alone!

Lastly…

Are you planning to make a New Year’s resolution in 2019?  What is it and is it something you’ve tried to do before or something new?

Let me know.  I love to hear from you…
xxx

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